Is it permissible to postpone the night of immersion to avoid publicity
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Question
A woman whose night of immersion falls on Friday night and needs to stay with her parents, knowing that her parents will notice, should she postpone the immersion to Saturday night due to modesty concerns?
Answer
The immersion should be concealed as much as possible, but the time of immersion should not be postponed because of this.
Source
The Rema writes in Yoreh De'ah, Siman 198, Sif 48: "There are those who write that a woman should be modest on the night of her immersion, and thus women have the custom to conceal the night of their immersion, not to go in a rush or before people, so that people do not notice them; and about one who does not do so, it is said: cursed is he who lies with an animal (Deuteronomy 27:21)."
In explanation, the Rema's responsa states that this causes thoughts in other people. In the Shulchan Gavoa, it is written that one should be wary of the evil eye.
Rabbeinu Yonah in the Iggeret HaTeshuva writes that a woman who is careful to conceal her immersion will have righteous children.
However, the poskim write that one should be as cautious as possible, but Heaven forbid to postpone the time of immersion because immersion in its time is a mitzvah, and there is an obligation of procreation, and even if he has a son and a daughter, there is a mitzvah of "He did not create it to be empty." And the obligation of marital relations.