Match proposal by another shadchan
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Question
What is the correct way to act regarding a shidduch: a match was suggested to us, and we did not want it for a certain reason, so the suggestion was dropped and there was still no meeting. Now someone else has suggested the same shidduch again, we checked again and it seems that we are now interested in moving forward. Do we first have to go back to the one who suggested the shidduch the first time, or may we continue through the one who is suggesting it now?
Answer
Shalom u’vracha.
You may approach the one who suggested it now.
If the shidduch goes through, one third of the fee (payment for the initial suggestion) should be divided between the two shadchanim, and the remaining two thirds (payment for managing the shidduch) should be given to the shadchan who is actually handling the shidduch.
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