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I am a married man, and recently my wife has been much less interested in intimacy. This is difficult for me because I experience very strong and constant sexual pressure, and it is becoming hard to manage without release. What is the halachic guidance for someone in my situation? How should a man cope according to halacha when holding back becomes extremely difficult? I am asking anonymously because this is embarrassing for me, but I am sincere and want to know how to handle this issue in the right way.

Shalom!

Thank you for your question.

It forbidden for a man to release himself. One must work hard to avoid this and one is given great reward for doing so.

You should explain to your wife how hard it is for you. You should tell her how much you desire her and that her co-operation will save you from violating Torah law.

We wish you luck with this.