Dating

Shalom Rabbi My son is dating a girl for a while. There is some issues in here . She had goy boyfriend for three years and slept with him but somehow it’s not important for my son. Then her brother also slept with goy girl and unfortunately he has a 20 years old daughter from her . He was 26 years old when this happened and now he is almost 27 years old and he has tattoos on his body. While ago someone called me and she told me that the girl my son is dating had abortion and when I told my son he said if it is true he will break up with her. But he said after calling and asking the girl herself he found out is not true . Rabbi at this point I don’t know what to do . My son is very religious and also he loves the girl . He is telling me that she could be a good wife and a good mother . She became very religious as well . Rabbi please I need your help . I want to know if this girl would be a good match for my son and my family? Her name is Nechama bat Deborah and my son’s name is Menashe Ben Sarah . Please please rabbi help me .

Shalom!

Thank you for writing to us.

We feel your pain and understand what you are going through.

At this time, it is unlikely that your son will listen to you further. He is an adult, he is aware of your opinions, and will make his own decisions. He has said that he loves her. Fighting him too much on this will only backfire.

Perhaps this girl does indeed have a spark in her that will return her to observant Judaism as you seem to entertain.

At this time, we can only pray and hope for the best.