Marriage Advice: Husband Doesn't Go To Pray

what should I do??? my husband only goes to daven if I beg him to. we have 2 kids - boys 3&1 I really want them to grow up in home where there father goes to daven . I am married 4 years and besides for this point am very happy bH

Shalom!

Thank you for your question.

Let us begin by reviewing the good things in your marriage: You are very happy! This is wonderful news! You have two children who you will raise to do mitzvot! You are already luckier than most of the world!

I assume that, in general, your husband, is a religious man. I assume he keeps kosher, keeps Shabbat, and keeps the laws of family purity.

While it would certainly be ideal for your husband to go to shul to pray, I feel that it is not something you should overly pester him about. A wife can definitely help her husband grow in Torah and yirat shamayim, but she should not be his rabbi.

Maybe have one last conversation with him about this issue. Tell him it would mean so much to you if her husband would counted among those who attend shul every day. However, if, for whatever reason, he chooses not to do so, you will not bother him about it or bring up the topic for discussion any more.

Allow me to leave you with some inspirational teachings to keep in mind at all times. The first is from the Mishna (Uktzin 3:12): “Rabbi Shimon ben Halafta said: the Holy One, Blessed be He, found no vessel that could contain blessing for Israel except for the vessel of peace, as it is written: "The Lord will give strength to His people, the Lord will bless his people with peace" (Tehillin 29:11). And from Avot D’rabbi Natan (28:3): “Rabbi Shimon ben Gamliel would say: Anyone who brings peace into his own home is regarded by the Torah as if he had brought peace to everyone in Israel.”

With much blessings for your success!