Theft by a Young Child Who is Embarrassed to Ask for Forgiveness
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Question
As a child, he stole several marbles from several friends. This means theft worth a few dozen agorot from each friend. The marbles are no longer with him. He has repented and wishes to return them to fulfill his obligation before Heaven. He is very embarrassed to seek out these friends, with whom he no longer has contact, to tell them about it and ask for their forgiveness or return them. What should he do?
Answer
Hello,
According to the basic law, there is no obligation for repentance or restitution for theft committed when one was a child.
However, it is good to do repentance and atonement. Beyond the letter of the law, one should also repay what was stolen.
In cases of difficulty or embarrassment, one can suffice with the basic law, which requires only repentance towards God.
Source
Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim, Siman 343, סעיף 1
And if a child struck his father or committed other transgressions in his youth, although he is not required to repent when he grows up, it is still good for him to accept something upon himself for repentance and atonement, even though he transgressed before becoming liable for his actions.
Mishna Berura (Siman 343, סעיף קטן 9)
But there is no need to pay if the theft is not present. And all this is by law, but beyond the letter of the law, whether he harmed him bodily or damaged his property, he must compensate him.