Inquiry about Conversion
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Question
Hello, dear Rabbi, I am almost 24 years old. After a year and a half of not finding anyone suitable, I met someone I really like. The issue is that he and his family are immigrants from Brazil. His mother underwent conversion (but I don't think she observes Shabbat). When he was born, he had a circumcision, and at an older age, he also underwent conversion (and he also does not observe Shabbat today). And I really think I've developed feelings. I really, really want to be with him. Can I date him, or is he considered a non-Jew according to Halacha?
Answer
Hello,
It's difficult to answer the question without all the details. Who conducted his conversion? What were his intentions at that time? And many more details. You should contact the one who converted him and check if it was done according to Halacha.
I would like to clarify a general point regarding marriage to a non-Jew.
Marriage is an eternal bond, a connection between souls that continues forever. Generations without end will come from this connection. And if we marry a non-Jew, our descendants will be non-Jews.
It's not wise to say 'I feel good with him, I enjoy being with him, we're getting married'. Marriage is not a couple's dinner, it's a bond for eternity.
The people of Israel have shed rivers of blood to remain 'a people dwelling alone', and not to intermingle with other nations.
The special people we know did not remain beautiful for free, we paid for it with millions of people and generations of pain and suffering.
Our grandmothers and grandfathers invested so much for us to be Jews, let's give this gift to our descendants as well.
Let's ensure they are Jews too!