Going to Work Not for the Sake of Livelihood
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Question
Hello, we are in our first year of marriage. My husband, thank God, is studying in a kollel. Next year, the kollel will likely close. My husband is not inclined to look for another kollel and prefers to go to work (not necessarily for the sake of livelihood). He is asking for my opinion. Should I allow him to work so that he is satisfied, or should I persuade him to look for a kollel so that there is no loss in Torah study?
Answer
Shalom and blessings
It is appropriate to try to influence the dear avrech to remain in Torah study.
However, on the other hand, it is highly inadvisable for the wife to try to influence him in this matter. This could create an unhealthy relationship between the couple.
Therefore, the advice is to recommend to the husband to turn to a spiritual figure he knows and respects, and consult with him on the matter.
You can say something like: 'This is a very significant step for the course of life and the character of the home, I want us to consult with a great person. Who do you think it is appropriate to consult with?'