Honoring a Narcissistic parent

I am a 47 yr old married woman. My father is a very controlling and narcissistic man. He has actively tried to put wedges between my husband and I. He has actively tried to destroy all my friendships, turning many away from me through false accusations. Currently he is angry at me for not "bowing " to his latest escapade. My question is this....how do I honor this? I want desperately to keep the commandments of Hashem, but this one has me stumped.

Shalom 

Thank you for your question. 

Your primary loyalty is to be to your husband. If your father/parents a putting a wedge between you and your husband you must distance yourself from them. Only when you feel you can have a relationship with your parents that does not affect your marriage should you do so. 

Best of luck!