Halachic Questions That May Lead to Dishonoring Parents
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Question
Hello, I wanted to ask, I am a seminary student, and my parents are very open and do not strictly observe all commandments, which causes me many halachic questions. Is it permissible to consult about this with others, but perhaps it will harm the honor of my parents?
Answer
Hello
It is permissible to consult, but it is obligatory to respect.
If possible, ask someone who does not know them.
Alternatively, emphasize to the rabbi that the parents were raised this way, and there is no complaint against them, but you are asking only about yourself, what you need to do.
However, even in a case where the rabbi will necessarily know who they are, and may possibly disparage them, one must not refrain from clarifying the Halacha, because fulfilling a mitzvah or avoiding a transgression outweighs honoring parents.
Source
Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah, Siman 240, Sif 12