Helping Mother in Secret
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Question
Hello, A person who experiences jealousy between his wife and mother-in-law during the marriage and tries to mend the relationships between everyone. Is it correct for him to perform the mitzvah of honoring parents and help his mother without telling his wife, in order to fulfill another mitzvah and ease his mother's burden? Or if there is any danger that it will be discovered and cause marital problems, should it be avoided?
Answer
Hello,
Local and specific help is possible.
But if done regularly, it is likely to be discovered by the wife and cause difficulties rather than add peace.
The long-term advice is only to resolve the conflict. If you can, do it yourself. If not, seek counseling.