Concealing a Father's Death from a Sick Son
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Question
Is it permissible to conceal from a sick person that his father has passed away?
Answer
If the notification will harm his health, it is forbidden to inform him. However, if the notification will not harm his health, it is a great mitzvah to inform him so that he can say Kaddish and pray for the repose of the soul.
Source
Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah, Siman 377, Paragraph 12: "If someone has a relative who passed away and he is unaware, it is not obligatory to inform him; even if it is his father or mother; and regarding this it is said: 'He who spreads slander is a fool' (Proverbs 10:18). It is permissible to invite him to an engagement, wedding, and any celebration, since he does not know. However, if he asks about them, one should not lie and say: 'He is alive,' as it is said: 'Keep far from falsehood' (Exodus 23:7). The Rema writes: 'Nevertheless, it is customary to inform sons so that they can say Kaddish; but daughters are generally not informed (Mahariv, Siman 13).'"
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