Meal of Consolation on Friday before Shabbat
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Question
If someone is buried on Friday close to the onset of Shabbat, should a meal of consolation be brought to the mourners?
Answer
If the burial takes place right before the onset of Shabbat, it is customary not to bring a meal of consolation to the mourner, but the mourner is still forbidden to eat from his own food before Shabbat. Some have written to bring the mourner a small amount of pastry and an egg, as it is permissible to eat a little before Shabbat to quell one's hunger. If the burial occurs on Friday with time before Shabbat, a meal of consolation should be conducted according to the law.
Source
In Mordechai on Moed Katan (Siman 133) it is written: "On Friday close to darkness before twilight, one is obligated in the meal of consolation. And if it is because he will enter Shabbat with desire, we ruled in Pesachim (page 100) according to Rabbi Yossi on Friday that it is permissible to begin eating from the afternoon and onwards.
The Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah, laws of mourning, Siman 378, paragraph 5, writes: "One who is buried on Friday close to darkness before twilight, there is an opinion that he should be consoled then; and it seems to me that since it is not obligatory, it is better not to console him then, out of respect for Shabbat, and this is the custom."
In Birkei Yosef, paragraph 4, it is written that he should be consoled on Motzei Shabbat.
In Chochmat Adam, Klal 163, paragraph 9, it is written that if he wants to eat before Shabbat, he is forbidden to eat from his own: