Eating at Parents' House During the Year of Mourning
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Answer
A meal at the parents' house, as well as at the in-laws', is not considered a festive meal, and one may eat there.
Source
It is stated in the Gemara Moed Katan 22b: "For all the deceased, one may enter a house of joy after thirty days, for his father and mother — after twelve months." Raba bar Bar Hana said: "And for the joy of friends." They object: "For joy and for friends — thirty days!" — It is difficult. Ameimar teaches thus: Raba bar Bar Hana said, and for the joy of friends — one may enter immediately. — But it is taught: for joy thirty, and for friends thirty! — It is not difficult; this is in the case of rental, this — in the case of disaster." And the Rema wrote, Siman 391, paragraph 2: "And the custom is not to eat at any feast in the world for all twelve months, if it is outside his home." And the house of the parents and the in-laws, according to the opinion of our teacher, Rabbi shlita, is considered his home in this regard.
