Distribution of Matchmaking Fees
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Question
I suggested a match for my sister; the idea was mine, but I actually sent my friend to propose to the other side, and he led the matchmaking. 1. How much money is due to me and how much to him? 2. Do my parents need to pay matchmaking fees: a. to me b. to my friend who proposed?
Answer
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For the proposal, one-third is paid, and for managing the matchmaking, two-thirds is paid.
You proposed only from the bride's side, so from the bride's side, you are entitled to one-third of the matchmaking fee, and two-thirds to your friend.
From the groom's side, your friend receives everything, as he both proposed and managed.
Regarding the matchmaking fees from your parents, they are obligated to pay your friend two-thirds for managing the matchmaking.
This answer is general, not as a family member. Regarding paying a family member, some do pay close family members, and some do not. Your parents will act according to their custom in this matter.