Virginity Question

Hie, i hope i find you well and im jus happy to be part of this community of the happy warriors... unfortunately, im also sad to be sharing this unpleasant tragedy but all in the hopes of finding better ways to go around it..i have a girlfriend of mine who i love so dearly, we've been dating for quite long time now and also we are both christians. However, on my girl's side some unfortunate events came by lately and it left both of us traumatised up to this very day. Her brother forcibly made her sleep with another man all in the name of," future security" as this man is quite fortunate in terms of possesions.. she was raped in actual fact. To my understanding, this was also done inorder to drive me away as he considered me as someone incapable of taking care of her sister as i am financially inequiped ...this has brought me to a place of unending sorrow and pain as i am incapable of doing anything . I love this person so much and she also does the same and we've been doing our best in moving in alignment with the word of the lord when it comes to intimacy but unfortunately it turned otherwise....my question however is that, how do i deal with this considering some of the teachings i get from the rabbi shows especially when it comes to the aspect of virginity because now i do not know spiritually, i may be aligned with my other person because honestly its difficult for me to go by everything i cannot let this girl go

Shalom!

Thank you for writing.

We are saddened to hear of these developments.

If you feel that she is meant to be your wife then you should pursue it. It does not matter if she is a virgin or not.

Avoid the negative influences in her family. Pray to G-d for success.

Wishing you well.