Stress Regarding the Laws of Purity

Thank you for the opportunity, there are no words for the great kindness. I ask you to take seriously a question that is almost a matter of saving a soul. A person close to me, whom I know, is very God-fearing, and because of this, he has stress and a kind of anxiety about whether he is doing everything correctly according to the Torah, a more general anxiety. But he has more concern regarding the types and checks of appearance, almost every check he shows to a rabbi. What happened two weeks ago, his wife immersed in the mikvah on Shabbat, and there were two types of appearances on the underwear. 1. Yellow with white inside, which seemed okay to him as it resembled types of appearances in the seven clean days, and the rabbi told him that such types do not need to be shown, but he is not sure in his decision. 2. There were very faint stains that appeared after washing, of a faded brown color, not solid but striped with gaps in two places on the left edge of the underwear, it did not seem to be a stain of the required size. Because of his awareness that he is too worried, and the rabbi he knows was not available on Shabbat, he decided not to pay attention. And he shared with me that since then he does not feel like a human being, as he kept the underwear for about five days to show, although he fulfilled the mitzvah several times. And in the end, his wife threw it into the laundry. Because she said it seemed okay to her, and regarding the faded brown appearance, it seemed old to her, so she did not think it needed to be shown. He feels like a criminal, although on one hand, it seems okay to him. And his soul is in question, is everything okay because he is already inclined to anxiety in this matter, and does he need to completely abstain and wait for the next cycle?? I hope I have clarified the matters and the sensitivity in these lines. Although I am sure that every question the rabbi considers seriously, here I ask doubly, knowing and recognizing him. And also what do they recommend for people like him who have stress from mitzvot, even if they are not defined as mentally unhealthy. Thank you very much and I would be happy to know the name of the rabbi answering so I can inform him. Wishing a good inscription and signature.

Shalom and blessings 

There is no problem in this matter. 

1. Yellow and white are pure appearances, and it was good that he decided on his own, there is no need to show them to a rabbi. 

2. A stain found on clothing after it has been washed does not render impure. So even if there was red color and the size of a lentil, it is fine. 

Answered by: Rabbi Yisrael Cohen, Moetz in the Beit Hora'ah of our teacher the Gaon, Rabbi Avraham Fried, shlita, and in the Beit Hora'ah in the city of Moa. 

It is highly recommended to seek medical treatment for anxiety. Treatment is not only for people who are 'not mentally healthy', but also for those who suffer from anxiety, depression, obsessive thoughts, and other phenomena.