Raped by a Non-Jew for a Kohen

Hello, I am in a relationship with a Kohen and come from a traditional family. Unfortunately, in my childhood, I was raped by someone, after he was caught and arrested, it was revealed to us that he was a non-Jew (Druze). My partner and I want to marry according to the law of Moses and Israel, but there are prohibitions for Kohanim, among them not to be with someone who was with a non-Jew. The question is if there is something that can be done? Are there "leniencies" for such a case? After all, it was by force and coercion. I love my partner more than I love myself and cannot imagine my life without him. Thank you in advance.

Hello and blessings, I read your case with great sorrow, and it is necessary to consult with a rabbi in the rabbinate in a personal meeting, as this is more complex than a simple email conversation. However, it is very important for me to emphasize that something that happened by force and coercion does not make you any less, and you bear no responsibility for it, and therefore a woman who was raped is not forbidden to her husband. On the contrary, the holy Arizal writes that in every person, even the most righteous, there is something not entirely good, and in every great wicked person, there is a spark of holiness, and when a vile person rapes, he cleanses the victim of all bad things within her, and if there is a spark of holiness in him, he loses it. Thus, the Chida explains in his book "Chomat Anach" (Parashat Vayishlach) that Dinah was in the reincarnation of the wife of Terach and was cleansed of everything that was in the previous reincarnation, and the spark of holiness that was captive in Shechem passed to Dinah. With all this, it is necessary to understand that Kohanim have certain laws, which we may not understand, such as how it is possible, for example, that a High Priest is forbidden to marry a righteous and pure widow, and for any other person, including a Kohen, it is the greatest honor to marry such a widow, and only the Creator of the World knows exactly why things are this way. Again, I have no idea what the rabbi in the rabbinate will answer you, as it is complex and depends on various details, and in any case, to marry, you need the approval of the rabbi in the rabbinate, but even if, God forbid, the answer is negative, it should be treated as if you received news from a doctor that genetically, if there are children, they will carry an incurable genetic disease, or alternatively, that there is no chance for children between you, and despite all the pain and sorrow, you move on and find something new. Blessings and success.

Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer, Ch. 6-7); Chomat Anach (Parashat Vayishlach).