Shidduch with a large age gap
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Question
There is a man whom I love very much, and there is an age difference of 13 years between us. He said that it would not bother him to go out with an 18‑year‑old girl, but I do not understand what he wants from me: sometimes it seems that he is interested in me and sometimes not. How should I relate to this from a halachic and Jewish point of view, and in terms of a shidduch (match)?
He is also a religious person who keeps Shabbat and wears a kippah and tzitzit. What should I do?
He is also a religious person who keeps Shabbat and wears a kippah and tzitzit. What should I do?
Answer
Shalom u’vracha
Such a large age gap usually indicates an unhealthy relationship.
Certainly, there is no place to advance in a relationship with someone who is not consistent in his commitment.
You should present this issue to him clearly, and try to clarify for yourself why he is prepared for such an age difference.
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