Kosher Ba'al teshuva and family relationships

Hi Rabbi, Looking for some help. When my son opted to persuade the religious path to became Ba'al teshuva and go to the Yeshiva a few years ago, I, as a conservative Argentinean Jewish mom, decided to start my own path to transform and keep my kitchen Kosher to ensure that we could spent time together and shared meals and feast whenever he came home. The process was difficult, thorough. and time-consuming, but under the guidance of my Chabad Rabbi and Rebbetzin , I successfully koshered everything and have kept it that way ever since. Now I've moved to a new house, I've totally remodelled my kitchen with materials and appliances that are completely kosherizable and functional for a Kosher kitchen, knowing and avoiding now some mistakes that could occur. After doing all of this and keeping kosher to the best of my ability, my son tells me that he can't eat at my house, not now, not never because I am not religious, and he knows now that the halacha says (Mishnah Berurah) that he should not trust a non-religious person who cooks kosher. I'm extremely disappointed by this. This is not the role of Judaism in embrace family relationships. I think this could just dismemberment a Jewish family and severely hinders and damage a conservative parents' interactions with their religious children, as well as restricting the mitzva of Kashrut to a select few who keep shomer and religious. Is that right?, and how can we repair the wall that this issue is creating and balancing our relationship by this halacha statement that I can't keep Kosher or have my son to any meal because I am not religious? For my, avoiding Jewish interactions altogether fails to embrace that Judaism has a real ability to reinforce family bonds, provide a sense of family history, and allow any branches of a family to come together in meaningful ways and many times over food tables. . Something about this is not totally clear to me.

Shalom!

Thank you for your question.

Allow me to commend you on all your efforts to keep kosher! This is amazing for you alone, regardless of your son’s views!

I am fully aware of the personal sensitivities you are experiencing.

Yes, there are some rabbis who rule that anyone non-religious may not be relied upon to cook kosher food. Other rabbis rule that exceptions can often be made in circumstances such as yours.

It appears that your son is following the stricter rabbis.

Perhaps a meeting with you, your son, and his rabbi, might help resolve this and find some leniencies and exceptions for you.

I will you much luck! Any home that turns kosher is a home where blessing will descend!