No Meetings Without a Kippah
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Question
The daughter is Haredi, and her fiancé prevents the secular father from meeting unless he wears a kippah when at their home or meeting with the one-month-old grandson. The father does not want to disguise himself to meet. How can they bridge this gap?
Answer
Hello
It is impossible to bridge the gap without understanding the entire situation.
I will suggest principles that may be suitable and perhaps helpful to you.
A. Those returning to faith must consult with a wise, experienced, and God-fearing rabbi regarding such decisions.
Often, the enthusiasm for the new path naturally causes them to distance themselves from anything that reminds them of their past.
However, like anyone who has made significant changes in their life and entered a system that is new to them in every aspect, guidance is mandatory. To avoid making mistakes that are very difficult to correct later.
B. Adapting one's appearance to the wishes of another in appropriate attire is not a disguise; it is respect.
Even when the President of the United States visited Saudi Arabia, he wore a keffiyeh according to local custom. No one thought he was disguising himself; it was clear to everyone that he came with respect for the local customs.