Why is this happening only to me
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Question
I am really trying to be the best I can be. I am a 19-year-old Haredi girl and have gone through so much in my life: eating disorders since I was 15, prolonged rape for a year and a half, currently investigations and courts. My father tells me why do the non-Jews ask, but I really ask why all this and many other things happened to me, while my sister's life is perfect. She has many friends, she hasn't been hospitalized, she hasn't lost friends, she didn't drop out of school, she's going to study a profession, and me? What about me? Maybe God doesn't love me or I committed very serious sins in a previous life? Why?
Answer
Hello,
Every soul has a special role in the world.
A role that no one else can fulfill.
A special part in the puzzle of the world that belongs only to this soul.
Do not, God forbid, see the difficulty as a punishment for sins we did not commit.
The great figures of our nation suffered greatly, Abraham and Sarah, Jacob, King David, and others, and we know they had no sin.
Difficulties have a purpose.
For example, through difficulty, a person submits to God, prays more, feels humble and submissive to God, and thus reaches the special role he is destined to fulfill.
When we correctly accept difficulties, they strengthen us and do not break us.
We all know people around us who have grown from difficulty and have become influential, giving light to their surroundings.
Precisely through the difficulties they went through, they learned how to give correctly and what to give. They became sensitive to the environment and distress and help others overcome their difficulties.
Sometimes this is visible to the eyes, and sometimes not. But the truth does not change.
Because the truth is that anyone who has gone through difficulties and strived to strengthen and continue grows and rises more than other people around him who did not go through such suffering.
I wish you that from today you will see only calm and tranquility and succeed in using the difficulties you have gone through to be a help and light to others.