Long distance relationship /for potenrial marriage and Superstition/evil eye? How to fight it?

Hi Rabbi , hope youre doing well. I have this question thats been stressing me out alote. And i am currently undergoing therapy for many reasons and the following question is one of the reasons . But i fear the evil eye is creeping up on me here abd there, and that has been taking a toll on me , of course im not the most perfect of humans and i keep repeating mistakes as i try to correct them as i dearly and deeply want to . But the specificity of thee evil eye concept lies within , my mother spreading exciting good news and roomers (a little to early in my opinion ) and the roomers spread continues , of and about my long distance girlfriend who my mother accepted and supports of course, but as she gets excited she spreads the word to everyone she knows. To friends / girfriends grandma etc.. of our relationship and her arriving to the states for me .the more i hear her gossip the more i fear my long distance girfriend wont meet me godforbid godforbid or anything else bad godforbid . I know theres a prayer for the evil eye as i try to do it , as it is challenging to include all prayers that i feel are the most important to me as there ard alote of them in tehillim after i do teffilin prayers of course . Somedays i dont do teffilin but i try to do teffilin as most days i do . Only on weekends i dont as i try to make weekends not an excuse and still try to do it . So i try to do teffilin nearly everyday especially weekdays. Should i leave this all to hashem to unite me and my long distance gf whom i wish to marry , meaning trust hashem in the destiny format type of thing ? which also, my long distance girlfriend id like to also mention she has went through alote for me , she traveled on a plane two or three times just to get closer to me , now she has one more flight , but the first 1 or 2 times , it didnt work . She lives in turkey now and im in u.s and yes she is jewish Rabbi. I love her more then anything . The first tike she tried to get on a plane from turkey to u.s i believe her aunt forgot documents to prove for registration prior towards my girlfriend boarding the plane, the 2nd something was not right in her ticket , her name was not appropriately indictated , because of those 2 events the flight has been posponed. And my best friend now knows about my girlfriend because my mother is close friends with his mother, and my best friends mother told my best friend the roomer , without me giving my mom approval to share with her or anyone . and i told my mother many many times to stop gossiping about her when she not here yet. I dont know what to do rabbi , do you have any advice on this,matter? I need your help?

Shalom!

Thank you for your question.

First of all, don't overly worry about "evil eye." A person who keeps the Torah and mitzvot, and prays to G-d, should not worry about evil eye..

Judaism has many tips on dealing with stress and anxiety.

First of all, you must know that we all have some stress and anxiety in our lives. Some stress and anxiety is completely normal. It is part of life.

King Solomon gives some great advice for dealing with anxiety and stress. As it says in the book of Proverbs (one of the three books written by King Solomon): “Anxiety in the heart of a person causes dejection, but a good word will turn it into joy.”

The commentators explain that the Hebrew word for “dejection” (“yashchena”) can also mean a number of other things such as to “suppress.” By using this alternative translation/interpretation, the verse actually helps unlock the secret in dealing with stress and anxiety.

As such, the verse can be read as, “If there is anxiety in the heart of a person, suppress it.”

Everyone has different ways for “suppressing” negative feelings. I would suggest “suppressing” your stress and anxiety by simply focusing on more important matters. When the more important matters are thought about and tended to, we then free up space in our heads (and in our day!) to better deal with the negative issues.

I would also suggest speaking to friends about what it troubling you. Our sages speak frequently about acquiring a good friend and sharing our troubles with them. A listening ear, a different perspective, a sympathetic heart, does wonders for stress and anxiety. Very often a friend will have great tips on dealing with your stress and anxiety, and will also likely make you realize that your problems may not be as difficult as you think!