Leaving Hair in a Place Where Haircuts Are Customary
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Question
Hello, in our family and community, it is customary to shave hair. I feel that my husband needs me to have hair, it is really important to him, even though he does not ask me not to cut it. I feel that it will greatly help him in guarding his eyes and more. Is there a way to permit me to cut my hair in such a way that it won't be visible that I have hair (to cut around the head, but essentially leave hair in the middle of the head)? I would appreciate a quick response, thank you very much.
Answer
Hello
Such a custom is considered a vow.
If you have said 'Kol Nidrei' every year or had a release from vows done for you, you do not need a release.
But if you have not done so, you need to perform a release from vows.
The form of release: either you approach three people who sit as a court for this matter and ask to release the vow [it can be annulled by any three, but one of them must know the laws of vows] . Or your husband can go to release the vow on your behalf. [In this case, he must go to a place where there are already three people, and it is forbidden to gather three people for the release. You can approach a rabbinical court where three rabbis sit in any case ].