Shalom Bayis – Breaking Point or…
Question
בס"דDear Rabbi, Shalom, I hope I can explain my point, with Hashems help:This is a second marriage, with all its complexities. Until now, through G-d’s kindness, we’ve had a Rabbi who has been able to help us with our shalom bayis, but he is very busy, and it’s difficult to arrange a meeting (understandably so).I feel very broken. Today I feel emotionally drained, the struggles that I have gone through over the past years have taken its toll. I feel like I’m at a breaking point because the Rabbi is too busy, and there’s no one to turn to. I want a Rabbi to help us on a few matters.I want to live with Emunat Chachmaim, to feel seen—that if I ask something, I will be guided one way or another, with sensitivity to what I’m going through. I also want to hold onto my faith, but sadly I feel I don’t have the strength anymore.I feel like breaking down and walking away from everything. I’m really reaching my limit. I don’t even have the strength to be angry anymore. Peace in the home is very important to me (I myself help women with matters of shalom bayis and family purity), but there are some things where I feel I’ve simply reached the end of my ability to cope.Forgive me—in case emotional therapy is suggested, of course it could be helpful, but it isn’t a solution for issues that need an actual decision. I cry out to Hashem that someone should see me and see my situation.
Answer
Shalom uVracha,
It pains me to read about the hardship you’re going through
Without a doubt, a second marriage can be challenging, and requires proper guidance.
On the recommendation of our teacher, HaGaon Rav Amrom Fried shlit”a, I suggest you call the Beit Hora’ah hotline at 073-3260800 and then select extension 903.
This will connect you with a Rabbi who deals with shalom bayis and counseling.
Wishing you much success.